All problems come from problems with other people

Here’s a simpler English translation suitable for middle school students:

These words come from Adler, a famous psychologist.

Even though Adler’s psychology is popular now, I only learned about it in my second or third year at work during a training session. Since then, it has taught me a lot.

Adler didn’t focus on whether his ideas were right or wrong. Instead, he said understanding that “all problems come from problems with other people” helped him help his patients better.

It’s true, problems with friends or other people can be the biggest problems in life.

For example, some people might quit their jobs or stop going to school because they are having trouble with others.

But, this also means if we get along well with others, we can solve many of our problems.

That’s why I think it’s very important to understand people and make good friends.

It might be hard, but having good relationships with others is key.

This is also a part of being happy and healthy!

（日本語）
これは、心理学者のアドラーの言葉。アドラー心理学は今でこそブームになっているが、私は会社に入って2−3年目の研修で初めて知って、これまで大変勉強になった考え方である。アドラーはこの考え方が正しいか間違っているかという視点ではなく、「全ての悩みの原因は人間関係にある」と定義したほうが、患者の治療に有効で実際に有益であったそうだ。確かに、人間関係の悩みが人生で最も大きなことかも知れない。人間関係に悩んで会社をやめたり、人間関係に悩んで不登校になったり、様々だ。裏を返すと、人間関係が良好であれば、人生の悩みの多くは解決できると言うこと。だからこそ、人を知り、社会的に良いつながりをもつことが重要なんだと思う。なかなか難しいこともあるけど、人間関係が良好であること。これも、ウェルビーイング！